Green Flags for Sadistic Men
Added 2024-05-07 05:51:20 +0000 UTCHe’s observant when you play and notices when you seem distressed. His masculinity isn’t threatened by the very idea of checking in or heeding yellow.
He doesn’t assume that if you’re a sub, you must also be a masochist. He does this new, fancy trick called “listening.” Quote me on this: This trend is going to catch on.
He’s willing to have an actual negotiation before your first scene. Better yet, you feel heard during that negotiation. This listening thing is going to become big, everyone. I’m telling you.
He plays for connection, not the marks or smutty photographs that come afterwards. Bonus points if he’s super into selfies of his penis in a ballerina outfit, though.
He’s not just RACK or PRICK because he knows consent isn’t a multiple-choice questionnaire; but a continuous search for knowledge. That’s why he doesn’t humbrag his way through threads like this one. (If you want to see examples, please read threads like this one. The demo dollies are always willing to do their job.)
His brain doesn’t glitch out over the last point because he’s not trying to work out how to humbrag without humbragging right now. He’s too busy taking a penis selfie.
He doesn’t see subs as paper doll cutouts with the same identical shape. Nor does he expect you to fit the shape he randomly selected in his fantasy world because he knows you’re a human and all humans are different.
He doesn’t shame you when you only have the resources for vanilla sex. He’s capable of connecting with you as an equal.
He carries half the weight when he injures you. He’d be willing to make your doctor’s appointment, share the medical bills, and make you a cupcake with googly eyes and everything.
He doesn’t think men who do aftercare are simps. Hell, he wouldn’t be caught using a word like “simp” in the first place.
You feel free. You feel unashamed. You feel cherished. These feelings say more about him than any observation on this list.
